Feminism Shmeninism

I just read an article in one of Pakistan's local news paper of how the "language" spoken demeans women and women rights. Mostly it was an attack on the "male" using inappropriate words for females. Then the article went on to discuss women's rights in detail and embark upon a whole history of inferiority faced by women.
At 21 years of age, and fresh out of a reputed university with a bachelors degree I refuse to fall into the web of female lamenting over lack of equality and opportunity. I refuse to believe the bias exists to such an extent that the whole world is against us.
When a girl goes out for a job interview, in North America or Pakistan, all she has to do is dress up, speak good English and her chances of getting a job are far better than any educated man. Mostly because firms need to attract client, and female employees that too good looking ones with impressive resumes are the key. Moreover firms are often targetted to have an imbalanced ratio, so women in this century especially are given preference. Men can complain, they can accuse and strike on this matter because it is a big deal especially since jobs are soo rare. But they dont. They instead choose to compete with women. If a woman gets rejected over a man in a promotion or employment its immediately a sexist issue.
That is not to say education isnt an important tool. Womens education is given far less importance by women themselves. Or after education, their implentation into jobs is further ignored. I have five cousins, who got married to very wealthy men. All five girls have graduated from Karachi University in something or the other. They are now housewives constantly complaining of the monotonous lives they live. My mother on the otherhand, who symbolizes a whole other generation got married after completing her masters and working for four years at a pharmaceutical company. Even after marriage she worked for twenty-five years as a teacher and hopes to continue. Her father was not a liberal minded individual but thanks to all female schools and my mother's ambitous attitude he let her do what she liked. So I am just telling you that the choices we make are not levied upon us most of the time. The complaining housewives, which are soo many in number conveniently blame society or their husbands for their dull lives. Not just in Pakistan but everywhere. They dont realise the meaning of individuality. I understand that for some women their husbands are too controlling or their fathers have never let them study but where was their own brain? Yes some extreme cases of fundamentalism are a different story for another day but to tell me that one cannot break free of male domination because of lack of confidence is just a shame on that woman. 'Speaking against your husband is wrong', 'talking back to your inlaws is wrong','speaking against your father is wrong', wrong for whom?! Whose rules are we following here? And why? Why dont we use our own brain and justify our actions through logic and practicality. Its like when we meet a teenage beggar on the streets of Karachi and my mother tells her "come home with us i'll give u a good job and a house to live in " she runs away like we asked her for prostitution. If they dont trust us, its their problem, we dont trust them either but we are giving them a shot atleast. Similarly women need to take that chance to endeavor and try and if all else fails then complain. But dont complain without trying.
Another issue that irritated me was the case of rape victims. I understand it is a henous crime and no justification can be given for it. However women have to stop accsing every man of commiting rape or supporting it. Women mostly standing at corners of streets waiting to be picked up for sex do not reflect me as a woman. Similarly one man who rapes or gang rapes does not reflect every man out there. Why are we forgetting individuality and falling prey to this generalisation. Its the equivalent of saying all muslims are terrorists. If a woman was gangraped or raped, she should have enough individuality in her to go and complain or her associates should complain on her behalf and accuse the criminal. Women are so caught up being scared, ashamed and mentally torn apart after this incident that instead of counselling them and gathering their wrecklessness to bring them back to life, women activists begin charging streets and parliaments in cry of expanding women rights and accusing the politicians of biasness. Arent we missing the point here? Doesnt she need more help personally right now than politically? Does she really care if women get two more seats in the parliament or judiciary? She needs psychological help to recover from the trauma. She needs financial support because clearly no man would any time soon marry her(she doesnt have to be the third wife of some sick minded landowner). She needs to know that despite what happened, life goes on. And despite what happened she can be her own personality. Also at times like these her family needs to be taken care of too. But women who know all this are too busy fighting the world for equality and justice while a family erodes away into misery and eternal depression.
I ask you, what are women fighting for? Is it equality? I dont think so. I work at a healthcare organization in Canada which is dominated by women. Furthermore I worked at a radio station in Pakistan which was being run by a very successful well connected woman. I also worked at a Law firm in Karachi which had majority women working in it. My father worked for a multi-national company whose chairman was also a woman. Our top actresses today have become soo successful they each have a talk show, and that makes them influential and popular. Furthermore they have turned producers and directors for movies and television which gives them soo much power and control. So I ask you what are women fighting for really?
If you go to a coorporate party in Canada or Pakistan, a well educated, learned woman has the power to engross the entire crowd. Men look up to those women, and hope that their wives or sisters can reach that stature because its just a matter of hard work and commitment which women shy away from due to domestic responsibilities. Successful women are out there in huge numbers. Those fighting for equality are actually portraying women negatively to show we are a sad, pathetic, slaved sex in need for retribution. When in fact we are fine and we dont need anyones help or signature of papers to give us more say or rights. We have it all, we just dont use it. Or we can have it all , we just want the easy way out.